Zan Perrion’s first episode on Becoming FEARLESS continues to get rave reviews over a year later, so I knew I had to sit down with Zan again when FEARLESS was back in Zan’s adopted home of Bucharest, Romania.
Editor’s Note: This post was originally published in May 2017.
Zan Perrion (author, “The Alabaster Girl”; founder, Ars Amorata) is famous from Neil Strauss’ “The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists” but “PUA” teachings never jived with him. Zan has dedicated his life to understanding women and helping men do the same. Zan speaks and coaches men around the world.
So many men struggle with getting stuck in the Friend Zone with women. With that in mind, Zan and I talk about the keys to creating attraction and chemistry with women and unlocking their sexuality and femininity.
“Beauty needs a witness.” This is what Zan says is the key to success with women. It’s about being masculine for a woman so that she feels safe being safe being feminine. For herself…and for you.
When a woman feels safe and happy being in her feminine, it’s a really beautiful thing. Women are beautiful and femininity is beautiful (as is masculinity, though in a different way) – she gets to enjoy that experience that she may not feel safe exploring with other men, and you get to enjoy it.
The masculine and feminine polarize each other and create chemistry and sexuality, so you want her to unleash and be in her feminine.
Zan and I also discuss:
-Keeping relationships fresh, full of love and sex, and what “being there” for your family really means.
-How much time and attention you need to give the woman or women in your life.
It’s actually not really about the amount of time spent with them. It’s about the quality of the time you spend with them. Being truly present. And again, being the witness of their beauty.
-What happens when you aren’t there for them or you aren’t present.
In this lies a key to seemingly petty “drama” and arguments they create. And how to deal with those.
-How you can get the “giving them attention” thing horribly wrong.
This relates to things like “nice guy syndrome” codependency, being all heart and no balls-no masculinity and no sexual edge or chemistry between you and your woman.
-Why, in Zan’s words, “If you’re not a scoundrel, you’re nothing” as a man.
You’ve got to be fun, be a little trouble, be sexual, and be an unapologetic man.
-How to be a sexual “scoundrel” without being creepy or being an asshole.
-Things to do and practice now
And so much more!
Hope you enjoy the episode!
