Miss Jaiya is an internationally recognized, award-winning sexologist, author of Red Hot Touch, and the founder of New World Sex Education; a company dedicated to using “real” sex education to help men and women get the sex lives they desire. Jaiya and I explore Jaiya’s “Erotic Blueprints” and how important understanding yours and your partners’ is to sexual (and relationship) fulfillment. And if you’re single, this may well also help you on dates!

In a nutshell, the five blueprints are:

Energetic – Someone who is turned on by anticipation and yearning. Could also even be turned off by too much physical intimacy, too quick.

Sensual – Someone who is turned on by having all their senses ignited. Ie: Flowers, chocolate, great-smelling candles. They also really like a lot of physical closeness and intimacy. They have a tendency to get analytical and stuck in their heads.

Sexual – Nudity! As Jaiya says, “They want to get right to it.” Very forward. May need a feeling of extreme certainty about sex happening, and may plow over other blueprints.

Kinky – People who are turned on by taboo. May include BDSM but this blueprint is much more wide-ranging and can include anything that feels taboo to that person. May be as much about psychological taboo as physical sensation.

Shapeshifter – Turned on by and can play in all of the blueprints. Jaiya and I discuss whether this blueprint may involve Nice Guy Syndrome, or if becoming a shapeshifter might actually be the best goal for everyone.

>> Discover which of these blueprints you are <<