Anthony
CoachPrior to finding FEARLESS, Anthony was a classic case of taking what life gave him…but feeling powerless when it came to directing life where he wanted it to go.
He didn’t even know he had a choice with women, always settling for what came to him through friends and circumstance. Anthony remembers longingly looking at women he’d see on the street and wondering what it’d be like to talk to and connect with them, but having no sense of choice or power to do anything about it.
When dating a woman, he still didn’t feel confident in himself or the relationship, and it would fall apart whenever things got uncomfortable. Anthony says in hindsight that he wasn’t being masculine for the women he dated and especially couldn’t handle any emotional turbulence between them, or just the woman going through rough patches. He’d just bail on the woman and the relationship.
When one woman he’d kept around for years suddenly told him, “I just don’t feel the same about you anymore,” Anthony had no idea what to do. He just felt even more shitty and insecure about himself.
Anthony also moved around a lot growing up and didn’t have many friends. He was raised by his Aunt for a long period of time and always felt like he was walking on egg shells with that family. Anxious just being around other people, Anthony was even very shy around family members. Meanwhile, he watched his cousins be much more gregarious and bigger energy than him.
Eventually, Anthony got curious about how other men seemed to connect with and choose women, and he found himself looking up videos on how to talk to women, where he found The Fearless Man’s YouTube channel. When Anthony signed up for his first “Experience” intensive, he only had $300 in his bank account – just enough for the down payment – but the way Brian spoke in his videos and the practice with models that FEARLESS does in intensives gave him no doubt that everything in the workshop was what he’d been avoiding his whole life, and exactly the help he needed. Emptying his bank account for this investment in himself was a no-brainer.
Anthony was mind-blown by “The Experience” and especially seeing all the nervous ticks during video review sessions that wasn’t aware of before. Afterwards, Anthony started spending time during his lunches reflecting and practicing the internal work he’d learned. He felt changes in himself and his anxiety, and realized people at work were starting to respond differently to him.
From there, Anthony jumped at the opportunity to be an alumni assistant at intensives and kept dropping more and more anxiety and nervousness. Things were up and down sometimes, but Anthony kept at it, stayed around the FEARLESS Family (intensive alumni and coaches), kept working on his shyness and insecurities as he talked to more and more women and people on the street, and got into FEARLESS’ advanced programs.
Anthony’s shyness even became a strength for him because of his ability to own it and interact with women anyway – the shyness and moments of embarrassment even became charming and sexy to women.
Anthony’s dating and sex life is an abundant, adventurous one now where he’s proactively choosing women. Women in general seem a lot different to Anthony now. They’re less scary, and he’s able to stay “in the tension” (ie: uncomfortable or awkward moments) with them and actually enjoy those moments and the women in front of him. He catches himself when nerves do come up, and he’s able to let go of nervousness much easier and change his behavior in the moment…instead of realizing everything he “should’ve done or said” later on.
As a coach, Anthony specializes in helping men learn to open up, stop worrying about what others think, and learning to effectively handle emotions in the moment.
