Learning how to talk to girls you like is about tension – sexual tension, and tension throughout your life. FEARLESS founder Brian Begin explains the concept of tension throughout life, creating sexual tension with women, and tips for building confidence in your everyday life.


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Editor’s Note: This post was originally published in May 2016. The post has been updated while the video is in its originally-published form.

Learning how to talk to girls you like isn’t about figuring out the right thing to say, or even how to stand or walk with so-called “confident body language.” If creating chemistry with women is consistently a problem for you, you’re probably avoiding tension with them – the tension of saying what’s really on your mind (ie: “Damn, you’re sexy!”), the tension of disagreeing with them, the tension of leading conversations, etc – and keeping conversations “safe” and platonic –> can you say “Friend Zone”?

In fact, you’re probably avoiding tension throughout your life, not just with women. Avoiding potential conflict, rocking the boat, being uncomfortable, etc. (If this is NOT sounding like your issue, you may need to work on your vulnerability.)

But tension is where growth happens. You need to put tension on your muscles at the gym for them grow, diamonds are formed under tension, and being comfortable with tension is a powerful signal of your confidence and attractiveness to women.

So if you want to learn how to talk to girls you like, really take the exercise Brian talks about in the video seriously, because that’s where you start to expand your confidence, tension skills, and attractiveness to women at a deep, meaningful level that can shift your whole vibe.

After you watch the video, you can read a written breakdown of the exercise below the video on this post.

Then get out there and get started!